The call in the middle of the night
I am convinced bad news never reaches you when you are wide awake.
My father passed during the night. He was 84. The fact that we knew it was coming has helped to take away some of the shock. Grieving has been ongoing since the Alzheimer’s took over, so when my brother’s phone call awakened me after 4:00, I was far more accepting and far less devastated than when my mother made a similar call eleven years ago with the startling news of my brother Stan’s death.
I’ll pack and make the trip home today, as will my other brothers. I had planned to go home tomorrow anyway in hopes of seeing him one last time. Now we’ll make preparations to send him off.
Posted by bernie at December 8, 2005 8:09 AMTrackBack
I am very sorry for your loss. My father passed on in August and I could relate to every word of what you wrote. Feel free to email me if you need anything or someone to talk to.
Posted by: troy at December 8, 2005 9:38 AMMy heart, thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Posted by: ClayStarr at December 8, 2005 10:25 AMI extend my sympathy to all that mourn your loss. May God be a source of comfort in the coming days and weeks.
Posted by: barrett Brown at December 8, 2005 10:34 AMMy prayers are with you and your family. So sorry to hear of your loss.
Posted by: DMFinNY at December 8, 2005 10:40 AMI'm sorry for your lost. My prayers are with you and your family as well.
Posted by: Carla at December 8, 2005 11:47 AMsorry to hear about the death of your father. may he r.i.p. you will be in my prayers.
have a safe trip back home.
Posted by: lashundra at December 8, 2005 11:52 AMmy condolences. have a safe trip.
Posted by: thaddaeus at December 8, 2005 1:43 PMBernie...my thoughts and prayers are with you. I lost my dad to Alzheimer's and other complications in 2000 so I know this is a difficult road. Peace be with you.
Posted by: James at December 8, 2005 2:35 PMMy sincere condolences to you and your family. Hopefully all of the preparations and the send off will go well.
Posted by: christopher david at December 8, 2005 3:53 PMMy prayers are with you and your family during these times.
Posted by: intellifreak at December 8, 2005 5:47 PMBernie, Very sorry to hear of the loss of your father. I lost a family member last year after suffering with Alzheimers for 20+ years with the last 15 in a virtual comatose state. Peace & blessings in this time.
Posted by: Fratman1906 at December 8, 2005 8:15 PMBernie,
Bernie, am so sorry to hear about your father's passing. Please accept my and C's sincerest condolences and love. Our prayers, love and sympathies are with you and your extended family.
Posted by: jstheater at December 8, 2005 8:48 PMI'm so sorry to hear about your father; if you need someone to talk to, you know how to reach me.
Posted by: karsh at December 8, 2005 9:20 PMMy condolences to you and you family. Everyone knows that accepting death is difficult, but you already know that your father is at peace now.
Posted by: That Dude Right There at December 8, 2005 9:23 PMMy condolences, heart, and prayers are with you and your family.
Posted by: Dwayne Wayne at December 9, 2005 10:57 AMBernie, I'm sorry to hear about your dad. You and your family have my deepest sympathies.
Posted by: The LoveHater at December 9, 2005 11:43 AMSincere condolences Bernie. Although I'm not a religious person, I know he's in a much better place.
I hope you and yours can find comfort during this difficult time. All of you are in my thoughts.
Posted by: ronn at December 9, 2005 1:18 PMMy deepest condolences to you and your family. Allow the fond memories of your Father to ease the sadness of your loss.
Posted by: zen at December 9, 2005 4:26 PMI am sorry to read this news. Please accept my condolences.
Posted by: Kim Pearson at December 9, 2005 10:06 PMI am sad to hear about your father's passing. You and your family have my condolences and sympathy.
Posted by: Ms. World at December 10, 2005 4:09 AMI lend you my heart. Keep your eye open for the love around. I invoke that God lends a hand of comfort for you and yours.
Posted by: Reg at December 10, 2005 9:50 AMI am so sorry for your loss Bernie. You are loved. Keep your head up.
Posted by: Rashid at December 10, 2005 12:36 PMMuch love to you and your family as you go through this time. Losing my mom 2 years ago was devastating for me, even more so because it was so quick. It still hurts just as much when it happens, regardless of how it happens.
Posted by: Efren at December 12, 2005 3:17 AMI'm sorry to hear of your loss, Bernie. You and your family are in my thoughts.
Posted by: Terrance at December 12, 2005 2:56 PM